Women on social media are debating the “hidden fees” associated with dating.
One New York-based TikToker explained that she refuses to split the bill on a date because she’s “actually splitting the bill first [she] it even goes up to date.”
“Regardless of the cost of the check at the end of the date, I’m spending money to show up,” Nancy said.
The user explained that once she sets a date, she books a Bar Cycle class ($38), gets her brows done ($38 + $10 tip), gets a manicure ($75 + $10 tip) — and went on to list the cost of all her beauty and hair products.
She went on to say that even if she’s done her brows or manicure earlier in the week, she needs a whole day to get ready: She has to plan her outfit, schedule her hair wash and be mindful. about what I eat before. the date. “I love garlic joints, I don’t have garlic joints to play before the game,” she joked.
“Add then a guy will ask you to split the bill on the date when he won’t even split the conversation,” she said. “I’ve spent all this time and money getting to the date, I’m not going to pull out my credit card once I’m there.”
While many people online agreed that a woman shouldn’t split the bill on a first date, they didn’t think the cost of preparation was a fair justification — and podcast host Kimberly Murstein echoed that.
“I would be offended if a man didn’t offer to pay for the first date, but not specifically because of all the beauty treatments I did,” the Palm Beach and NYC-based creator told the Daily Mail.
Murstein — who co-hosts the podcast “Excuse My Grandma,” where she talks about dating her grandmother Gail — said she gets manicures regularly, but also plans a mani/pedi right before a date, as well as a blowout when she for the first time starts dating someone, which is usually between $60-80 on Glamsquad.
“Later in the appointment, you also start thinking about things like waxing or laser appointments — so it all adds up,” she said.
Gail, meanwhile, has been married for more than 60 years and has more relaxed dates with her husband where she “usually goes for a sweater and trousers and doesn’t feel the need to try so hard” – but glam is still important.
“Don’t get it twisted, she’s always going to have her hair up, night out or not,” Murstein laughed about her grandmother.
“I think it takes me longer to get ready than a guy, and that should be taken as a kind of compliment,” she said. “But mostly, I stand with my grandmother on the principle that a guy should take care of the first date.”
Although Murstein never wants to split the bill, she always does the “lay-on,” reaching for her wallet and acting like she’s going to pay.
“Of course, after the first few dates, it’s up to the couple to figure out how they want to handle finances going forward,” she said.
Meanwhile, even a financial empowerment expert agreed that the man should be the one who pays on a date.
“Call me old fashioned, but I don’t think a woman should be splitting the bill under any circumstances,” Amanda Frances, who offers digital courses that focus on sharing investment advice with women, told the Daily Mail.
The Newport Beach, Calif.-based financial empowerment expert has been in a relationship for several years, but when she was single, she believed that while she could take care of herself and make money, there was “just something about the type of person who he would never let you pay for dinner.”
Frances also pointed out that while beauty and exercise are important for yourself, they shouldn’t be done specifically for the men you’re dating.
“If doing some kind of treatment puts you in a relaxed and confident state for a date, then definitely do it for yourself, but it should pay off regardless,” she said. “I don’t think we should be doing any skincare, treatments or procedures for men – but we absolutely should be doing them for ourselves.”
“If your rent/mortgage is paid, you’ve met her savings and investment goals for the month – then by all means… get all the beauty treatments you want,” she advised. “Personally, my weekly blowout, at-home mani/pedi, and monthly facial are non-negotiable.”
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