Well men, there is something I am going to share with you that will probably come as a great relief.
Chatting with the girls the other night at dinner, we posed the question – would you rather a guy last 30 seconds or an hour in the bedroom?
We all agreed, 30 seconds would be better.
And believe it or not, it’s actually the BIGGEST compliment ever.
You know those funny porn videos that go on forever?
Yeah, well, they’re total BS.
I mean, who really wants to spend an hour in bed doing the same thing over and over again?
Tiresome.
Boring.
Snoring.
Seriously, I have a special male friend who sometimes comes over to my place on his break from work and the thrill of it soon makes life worth living.
In fact, on the odd occasion, I’ve popped into his work on the way home from a night out and those five minutes in the back office have made for the perfect end-of-night treat.
However, thanks to porn and movies that make it look like couples are making out all night, I believe men have developed this unnecessary anxiety about “going the distance”, but we honestly don’t want them to.
I certainly don’t.
The truth is, women are more about quality than quantity when it comes to sex.
A quick game can be just as satisfying (if not more so) than a marathon session.
And here’s why.
Foreplay is very underrated
Think about it: the foreplay is the appetizer.
It creates a mood, excites you and makes the main course even more enjoyable.
So if you’re spending less time on the actual act, you can spend more time creating anticipation and desire.
That’s where you want to spend most of your time.
Variety is the spice of life
A quick cook doesn’t mean you have to stick to the same old routine.
You can try different positions, toys or places.
A quick slip into an office closet sure beats a long boring session stuck in missionary on a bed.
The possibilities are endless.
It’s less stressful
Let’s face it, worrying about “keeping your distance” can be a real bummer.
When you are not under pressure to perform, you can relax and enjoy the moment.
We need to spend less time in our heads and more time in our bodies focusing on what feels good and helping each other climax.
It is much more stable
If you have a lot of fast food throughout the day (or week), you’re less likely to get tired or burn out.
And that means more sex in general.
Quick before you get up for work?
Wonderful.
A roll in the grass before the kids come home?
Sharp.
A cheeky handjob on the way to work?
Why not.
It allows women to take charge
Thanks to outdated ideas about a woman’s role in sex, many of us may feel pressured to conform to certain sexual stereotypes, such as being submissive or passive.
A fast can challenge these stereotypes and empower women to take control of their sexual pleasure.
A quick orgasm is often a great orgasm.
Fast doesn’t have to mean boring. It can actually be quite fabulous.
Plus, knowing that a man finds you so sexually attractive that he can barely contain himself is an ego boost.
So the next time you feel anxious about your performance, remember: it’s not about how long you last, but how good you feel.
And a fast one can be just as if not better than a marathon.
Trust me, your partner will thank you.
Jana Hocking is a columnist and aggregator @jana_hocking
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